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Now, let´s jump into today´s topic. This one is popular amongst spiritually woke individuals as it investigates the narcissist and its connection to black magic (sihir).
You will gain a deep understanding of narcissism, recognizing its patterns, traits, and behaviors. This knowledge will empower you to identify narcissistic individuals and protect yourself from their manipulation.
By learning about narcissism, you’ll understand how to rebuild your sense of self, maintain healthy boundaries, and grow emotionally stronger, which will ultimately help you avoid falling into toxic relationships again. I’ve also made it clear who narcissists fear the most in this article.
Unpacking Narcissism and Its Spiritual Links
The surprising link between narcissism and black magic (sihir), is a connection that’s often discussed among spiritually aware individuals. When I first learned about this, I was just as surprised as you might be now. I used to wonder, especially after my first encounter with a narcissist, How do they do it? How can someone be so manipulative and harmful, fully aware of their actions, yet blend into society without raising alarms? Questions like these help us identify these individuals, even if they try to mask their true intentions.
In a video, Abu Hamza explores the connection between narcissistic traits and black magic (sihir). He explains that narcissists often use manipulation tactics like those associated with sihir, draining others’ energy and controlling their emotions. This behavior is harmful both psychologically and spiritually, as narcissists pull people into a web of control and depletion, weakening their mental and emotional states. Keep on reading to learn more about how this works in practice.
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Read on to understand how narcissists manipulate those around them. But first, let’s begin by identifying the key traits of this personality disorder. By recognizing these signs, you’ll gain insight into how narcissists operate and how they subtly control and influence their relationships.
Recognizing Narcissistic Behaviors in Everyday Life
Why is the narcissist nicer to everyone else but you? Why are you the only one who sees their true colors? The answer is simple: they reveal their true self only when they feel fully in control. Once they believe they’ve “secured” you, their mask slips, and that’s when you see their real nature. At home, they drop the charm they show to others, where they work hard to maintain a perfect image of sweetness, charisma, and beauty.
Narcissists are hyper-aware of every step they take. Their actions are carefully constructed to project a specific image, with everything they do designed to manipulate others’ perceptions. Nothing they do is a coincidence; it’s all part of their calculated strategy.
Narcissists often stand out as highly reliable, intelligent, or confident individuals. At times, they may appear quiet, but their goal is always the same—to fit in and impress. In relationships, they will often mimic their partner’s behavior, studying them closely to learn how to win them over. Particularly with narcissistic partners, you might notice they have no genuine “rizz,” only learned tactics from previous failed attempts at relationships. This need for control can lead to treating their partner as property, valuing them solely for what they can provide for them.
The Hidden Depths of Narcissism
The depth of a narcissist’s flaws could fill volumes, but certain traits are simply impossible for them to hide, no matter how much they try. Narcissism is often more than a psychological issue—it’s a deeply spiritual one rooted in darker, destructive energies. They are often unable to escape their harmful patterns, which can feel like an unseen force pulling them toward destructive behaviors.
In modern culture, narcissism is often simplified as an obsession with outer beauty. I used to think narcissists were simply confident people focused on themselves. But having experienced it firsthand, I learned the hard way that narcissism is much more complex. Narcissistic individuals are deeply insecure and lack true self-love, hiding behind a facade that conceals their self-hatred. A fantasy world. Think of narcissists like a black hole in the universe, absorbing every frequency they can from you, leaving you drained.
Those with strong self-esteem and emotional intelligence are often able to spot narcissists, as their intuition and understanding of human behavior help them detect the warning signs.
At Inspireherfaith.com, we encourage building confidence and self-love, which serve as essential tools for recognizing narcissistic traits in others.
Personality Types, Manipulation, and the Dangers They Pose
Narcissism exists on a spectrum, with 3 distinct personality types: Empaths, Codependents, and Narcissists. Empaths are deeply connected to others’ emotions and seek meaningful relationships, often preferring simplicity. Codependents seek validation through others and are drawn to external sources of identity. Narcissists, on the other hand, exhibit an inflated sense of self-worth and selfish behaviors, taking from others rather than giving. Narcissistic tendencies often stem from past trauma, with individuals manipulating others for personal gain, leaving negative impacts on those around them.
Narcissists are skilled manipulators. They often twist situations by lying, gaslighting, changing the narrative, or discrediting your actions. They can be dangerous, but do not fear them—they are the true losers in society, though they fail to realize it. In their distorted world, they see themselves as superior, believing they are fooling others. In reality, most people recognize their manipulation. However, these people struggle to pin-point the abusers identity: that they are narcissistic. Narcissists are easily hurt and hold grudges, punishing others daily in a game they alone are playing. Their victims can sense something is wrong, as energy never lies.
Narcissist victims are often kind, humble, and generous individuals: the empaths. The narcissist targets empaths because their compassionate nature makes it easier for the narcissist to manipulate them. Their goal is to destroy these people emotionally, using them for their own gain.
Key Traits and Behaviors to Watch For
As discussed in a previous article, here are some of the most notable traits that can signal narcissistic tendencies:
- Grandiosity and Entitlement: They view themselves as superior and expect special treatment.
- Need for Admiration: Narcissists crave constant validation and are preoccupied with fantasies of success and power.
- Lack of Empathy: They struggle to understand or care about others’ feelings.
- Manipulation: Narcissists often use people as tools to meet their own needs, showing little concern for the other person’s well-being.
- Preoccupation with Image and Status: They focus on maintaining an idealized image, often competing with others for validation.
- Love Bombing: Love bombing is a manipulative tactic often used by narcissists (or toxic individuals in relationships). It involves overwhelming the target with excessive attention, affection, gifts, and compliments to create a false sense of love and attachment. The goal is to gain control and manipulate the person, making them emotionally dependent. Once the victim is hooked, the love bombing fades, and the manipulation turns more toxic.
These traits make narcissists energy-drainers. Being around them can leave you feeling exhausted and depleted, both mentally and emotionally. Their arrogance often stands out, and they can be relentless in their need for control.
Spiritual Parallels: Narcissism, Fir’awn, and Black Magic
As seen with historical figures like Fir’awn (Pharaoh), narcissism can take on a demonic nature. Fir’awn’s cruelty and arrogance were so extreme that Allah preserved his body as a lasting sign for humanity. His story, which stretch to narcissistic traits, can lead to monstrous behavior. Just as Fir’awn’s life was a cautionary tale, studying his story can offer valuable insights into the dangers of narcissism and the spiritual darkness that can accompany it.
From an Islamic perspective, narcissism shares deep spiritual parallels with the story of Fir’awn (Pharaoh), who embodied arrogance, cruelty, and a sense of invincibility. Like narcissists, Fir’awn rejected the truth and believed he was above all others, even declaring himself a God. His behavior exemplifies the destructive impact of pride, which is also a key characteristic of narcissism. In both cases, they manipulate and control others for their own gain, reflecting traits associated with spiritual corruption. Which can sometimes be linked to harmful practices like black magic (sihir). Islam teaches the importance of humility, self-awareness, and turning to Allah for protection against such destructive forces.
Allah condemned narcissism just as He condemned arrogance, mistreatment, and oppression. Narcissism is ultimately a matter of choice. A narcissist will exploit their victims in every possible way—financially, mentally, physically, or spiritually—using any form of abuse they can think of, whether towards family, spouses, or friends. They will drain you until there’s nothing left. Allah will not show mercy on such actions unless they repent. However, the narcissist struggles with repentance; they resist change, even when their lives depend on it. They cannot change.
Insights from Abu Hamza: Narcissism and Sihir (black magic)
Muslim healer Abu Hamza explains a profound connection between narcissism and black magic, or sihir, in his teachings. Abu Hamza explains that narcissistic individuals may be influenced by darker, unseen forces that amplify their negative traits. While not every narcissist is connected to sihir, Abu Hamza’s teachings offer a spiritual perspective that resonates with those who have encountered narcissistic harm.
Furthermore, he explains that all narcissists resist change. Any advice is not taken seriously, and narcs likes to be admired. These are some of the symptoms that he is mentioning. Hamza connects the narcissist with black magic. He draws the lines in their characteristics, analyzing their behavior with the symptoms. It is known that the narc will abuse you psychologically.
Abu hamza further explains that there are also devils (shayatin) who perform magic. These devils can enter the body of a narcissist. Muslims who practice their faith with humility, honor, and a firm belief in Allah are not affected by shayatin, except through their whispers, which they resist through their strong belief system.
According to Hamza, when devils enter the body of a narcissist, there are two possibilities:
Option one: the magic affects someone in the family, and the narcissist may use other jins (evil spirits) in the house.
Option two: the narcissist goes to a magician and brings the magic into the home.
If there is a narcissist in the household, it is almost certain they are already affected by black magic, which makes it easier for them to control the household. For example, a woman with a narcissistic husband may feel trapped and unable to leave the marriage, especially if children are involved. The husband’s use of black magic ties her to him, making it nearly impossible for her to leave, even if she wants to.
The love of a mother for her children is unconditional, which may keep her in the marriage. Living in the same house with a narcissist under the influence of black magic is extremely difficult for the wife. People who have been through such narcissistic abuse understand the deep emotional damage it causes.
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The narcissist constantly complains, believing he is superior to his wife, children, friends, and literally most people. He never apologizes for the harm he causes. As Hamza explains, when dealing with someone like this, you are not dealing with a normal human being.
People can have disagreements, but a normal person would not cause such severe disruption. These are the actions of the devil (shayatin), who has many names. Humans have intellect, and a normal person uses their intellect to behave decently.
Hamza also states that he had a couple of narcissists come to him for treatment. He explains that they couldn’t even continue the session with him. He says, “they ran away as soon as I figured out their games”. Narcissists never accept any form of treatment, whether it’s through ruqyah (the best option for demonic possessions), therapy sessions, or psychiatric help.
Find Mercy and Strength
As discussed in the previous article, the use of black magic will cost a person their hereafter, as they will suffer in the eternal life (after death). However, Allah will show mercy to the victims of narcissistic abuse for the pain they endured.
This life is a test, and it is important to remind yourself of this regularly. The greatest tests offer benefits both in this life and the hereafter, so don’t lose yourself in narcissistic abuse—it is only temporary.
Read on to learn who the narcissists fear.
The Ethnic Household and the Narc
In ethnic households, narcissists often feel comfortable because families may be reluctant to speak up and instead endure their behavior silently. This creates an unstable environment for children, depriving them of a stable upbringing. These children often suffer from undiagnosed mental health issues due to their vulnerability and fear of the narcissist. Narcissists frequently brainwash their children, manipulating and controlling them. If you are lucky, you will only end up with one Narcissistic parent, but sometimes, both can embody the personality disorder.
The narcissist is focused on maintaining appearances and fitting in, willing to lie, abuse, and threaten family members to avoid backlash. They engage in extensive damage control to prevent anyone from leaving, speaking up, or challenging them. Those who cannot escape the household often struggle with low self-esteem and various traumas. Narcissistic parents will also pit siblings against one another, leading to resentment and even hatred within the family (or even extended family members).
Breaking Free from Generational Patterns of Narcissistic Abuse
In many cases, the effects of narcissistic abuse by a parent can lead a child to repeat similar patterns in adulthood, often attracting a narcissistic partner. Without actively healing and becoming mindful of these dynamics, they may unknowingly seek familiar, but unhealthy, relationships. However, with self-awareness and a commitment to growth, individuals can break free from this cycle and create healthier connections.
While narcissistic parents don’t genuinely love anyone but themselves, they may occasionally display gestures that look like love to keep their family members emotionally attached. They terrorize and exhaust those around them, leaving them drained. Pursuing your dreams in such a household is incredibly difficult. If you’re experiencing this and still living at home, consider creating a new path for yourself. You must choose yourself before you can save anyone.
Achieving your worldly dreams is unlikely with a narcissist in your environment. This is why you must pack up and leave at some point in your life. Don´t allow them to abuse you anymore, and simply leave in peace. You can still love your parents from afar if your love for them is apparent. When you choose to leave peacefully, without engaging in drama, you become the true winner, and Allah will reward you for your efforts. Depending on their mood, they might react with intense interest, or they may not care at all when you decide to go.
Why Respecting Your Children Matters for Life
Raise your children with care and love. Treat them well and provide for them to the best of your ability. Remember, you chose to have them, and while you support them, they don’t owe you anything in return. Your kids won’t remain toddlers forever; they will grow, and their minds will remember how you treated them. You chose this responsibility, so don’t complain or mistreat them—they are your responsibility.
There are still people who constantly blame their kids for the way they respond, not realizing they (the parent) may be the cause of that behavior. Imagine mistreating your children, only for them to grow up, understand what happened, and then be blamed for distancing themselves. It’s hypocritical, and unfortunately, this dynamic is too common in some ethnic households.
There will also be people who criticize you just because you’ve finally chosen to stand up for yourself and uphold what’s morally and ethically right. These individuals may say things like, “But it’s your father/mother; they raised you, so they can do what they want”. This mindset is dangerous because it condones abusive behavior and enables narcissists to continue their mistreatment, unchecked.
Who Does the Narcissist Fear?
Whether a narcissist fears you often depends on how you respond. They are particularly wary of people who “play the long game”—those who don’t immediately react to their attempts at control, humiliation, or manipulation. Narcissists aim to provoke instant responses, using others to satisfy their need for immediate dominance and validation.
However, if a target remains unphased and detached, calmly absorbing the experience without showing frustration or satisfaction, they signal that they may be strategizing with a larger, long-term perspective. These individuals don’t internalize the toxicity but instead observe and prepare, waiting for the right moment to strike back, whether that moment is days, years, or even decades away.
This type of resistance, combined with faith that the balance will eventually shift, can deeply unsettle a narcissist. They sense that they may be dealing with someone who is not as easily manipulated or contained, and this possibility can be unnerving. When they’ve moved on, they fear that some people may not let them off so easily.
I’m aiming to keep this post minimally personal, but I can say that some of the narcissists I’ve encountered have come to fear me the most out of all their victims. I’ve kept notes on my phone, some dating back to a couple years, where I reflect on how these narcissists eventually wished they had never crossed paths with me. My stubbornness is incredible when it comes to abuse.
I am a patient individual, with a force of strength that I believe only Allah has granted me.
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When are Narcissists Finally Done?
- At Death: For those close to the narcissist, genuine freedom and peace often only come after the narcissist’s passing, as the cycle of manipulation and control finally ends.
- Through Self-Reflection and Change: If a narcissist is younger or reaches a point of intense self-awareness, they may choose to confront their behavior and work toward regaining empathy and humanity, though this is very, very, very rare.
- In Social Isolation and Collapse: Narcissistic collapse occurs when everyone leaves, stripping away their sources of validation and forcing them to face the emptiness within. This isolation can break their control and compel a reckoning, although few narcissists reach this point.
Your Intuition is Your Greatest Shield
If you suspect someone you´re interacting with, might be a narcissist, trust your instincts. Often, our intuition picks up on subtle cues before our conscious mind has put all the pieces together. When something feels off, it probably is. Learn to listen to these inner warnings—they are often very quiet but correct. When something feels off, your reaction won’t be immediately visible; it occurs quietly within you. This is your brain’s way of protecting you while keeping your discovery hidden from the abuser.
Read on to learn how you can properly heal from narcissistic abuse and regain your strength.
Be Positive, Even if They Hurt You
Narcissists may try to provoke you or draw you into arguments, but remaining calm and maintaining your distance can protect you. Avoid exposing or confronting them directly, as they tend to reveal their true colors over time. Narcissists are also masters at gaslighting, which can lead to even more prolonged pain if you stay engaged. It’s often better to remain calm and let them put on their show. Though it may be hurtful now, creating distance allows you to better understand how to handle them. With time and perspective, you’ll develop stronger strategies for managing their behavior.
The narcissist will feel defeated as soon as you recognize their abuse and alert them that you know. This is when they start to devalue you. You don’t need to do much after that, because they will eventually distance themselves from you. This is how powerful you are as an empath. Cultivate a strong mindset, absorb new knowledge, and stay busy with your interests as much as possible. Avoid engaging with the narcissist (this also includes those surrounded by him/her), and focus on yourself and those who are positive. Positive energy from others and your renowned mind, will help you recover more easily.
How to recover from the narcissistic abuse
We are dealing with evil entities and are constantly exposed to their wrongdoings. Healing from narcissistic abuse requires a multifaceted approach:
- No Contact/Low Contact: Cut ties or limit exposure to the narcissist to break their control. This includes those who are surrounded with narcissists too.
- Therapy: Seek professional help, like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), trauma-focused therapy, or EMDR to process trauma.
- Support System: Surround yourself with trusted people who validate your feelings.
- Self-Care: Prioritize physical and emotional well-being through relaxation, exercise, and hobbies.
- Educate Yourself: Understanding narcissism helps break the cycle of manipulation and strengthens self-awareness.
- Rebuild Self-worth: Engage in activities that restore your confidence and sense of self.
- The Eyes: A narcissist will reveal their true nature (quicker) if you learn to maintain eye contact during any interaction. Don’t look away, always keep your chin up, and read their intentions through their eyes.
- Self-awareness: Self-awareness can be a powerful tool for protecting yourself from an abuser. When you truly understand who you are—your strengths and weaknesses—no one can manipulate you or use your vulnerabilities against you. By recognizing what triggers certain reactions in you, you’re less likely to fall into the abuser’s traps. For example, if you know certain situations make you anxious or defensive, you can consciously manage your responses, preventing the abuser from exploiting your emotions. This knowledge of yourself disarms their ability to control or provoke you.
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Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse by Building Independence
Narcissists are abusive by nature, and when they don’t get what they want from me—attention, admiration, and acknowledgment—I don’t put myself in a position where I lose control. You might ask, “What does this mean, Nasreen?” Well, narcissists tend to make you dependent on them so they can maintain control, whether financially or emotionally. That’s why I urge everyone to become independent. Getting a job is easy. Start with what you’re most skilled at, or at the bottom if necessary.
Even if you don’t want the job, take it! Having some form of income is important, no matter what it is. You can always build your career or start your own business once you’re financially independent. There are plenty of jobs available, and if you need to relocate, do it. After an abusive relationship, your location or job won’t matter. I don’t believe in shaming people for taking jobs that others might deem beneath them. These individuals gotta touch some grass 🙂
I think you’re amazing for doing whatever it takes to survive. Any person who works, no matter what job it is, deserves respect. You’re a badass if you decide to work as a server or a cleaner.
I’ve worked as a cleaner during the summers in elementary, and I could easily do that job again. It’s hard work, but you gain new skills, and you’re contributing your energy. The hotel I worked at was far from where I lived, and I had to bike 30-40 minutes one way to get there. I met tourists from all over the world, improved my English, and learned to value work life at a young age. I earned my own money and saved for rainy days. What 14-year-old girl does that? I had a support system that taught me life lessons that most of my peers didn’t get. I consider them my first mentors.
I didn’t realize how lucky I was until I became an adult. Everything they taught me came handy!
So, after an abusive relationship, take the time to explore and say “yes” to opportunities. Have fun with friends and allow yourself to feel. Don’t give up on yourself—it’s not over. Every day you wake up is another chance to improve. God is not finished with you yet. You’ve just opened a new chapter of your life! Be excited and grateful for a second chance. Many people never survive abusive relationships. Don’t let it be you—just leave and leave quietly. Tell a trusted friend or family member and go without a show.
Oh, and yes, you will find true love again. You will automatically become resistant to narcissists once you spend time in solitude, focusing on healing and becoming stronger. My best tip is to never jump from one relationship to another to try to fill the void after the abuse. Learn to love yourself properly, show care, and give yourself some grace. No one can love you unless you love yourself. That veil of ignorance is now lifted, and you see people for who they truly are, rather than who they are trying to portray.
Amid the darkness you might have found yourself in, reflect on these statements:
Staying Protected and Positive
Remember, you are stronger than any negative energy, and with God´s guidance, you can navigate these challenges with no sweat! Stay vigilant and protect your energy, trusting that everything will work out for your highest good. Know that by understanding these signs, you can recognize and distance yourself from narcissistic toxicity, who mean you harm. Allah’s protection is always there, guiding you and helping you remain alert and safe.
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References
The Muslim women´s Resource Centre
The Connection Between Narcissism, The Evil Eye and Black Magic in Islamic Psychology
Mayo Clinic
Abu Hamza – You can find his work on social media platforms like Instagram, TikTok, YouTube or Facebook
Books I recommend reading to improve your understanding of this topic:
The Muslim Narcissist: An Islamic guide to understanding, surviving and healing from narcissistic and spiritual abuse
Everyone Knows A Narcissist: Coping With Narcissistic Abuse
Best platforms to learn more about narcissism from real people, online:
Quora
Inspireherfaith.com
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