How to Protect Your Energy and Build Confidence

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The Misogynist Mask

I’m convinced that misogynistic men are closeted homosexuals fooling women for generations. They act so well too, like, let me get up and give you applause. I´m sure they would make great actors. These men (and women) are often deeply sexist and harbor spite for no apparent reason. Throughout my life, I’ve encountered countless men who cheer for their lads but project disdain onto women.

This post is about protecting your energy and building confidence.

A Convincing Pattern

I firmly believe misogynists are closeted people hiding their truth. And I say this in the most serious way. From childhood to now, they roam the world, assuming we can’t see through their actions. I’ve seen men go out of their way to “humble” women in workplaces, personal life, and social media. They waste so much energy, and I can’t help but smile when this happens to me—why waste your breath? I observe their toxic behavior and keep calm.

My intellect, a gift I cherish, often intimidates these men. I enjoy learning and researching, even random topics, because intellect fascinates plus, it´s attractive. This doesn’t mean I know everything, but my curiosity is boundless.

Why Insecurity is a Deal-Breaker

I know I intimidate people, including men, simply because of my aura and existence. The light I cast over others’ shadows without saying a word has truly made people mad, and it´s so visible. Most of the compliments I receive, refer back to my aura. It’s the radiance that comes from confidence and not comparing myself to anyone or anything in life. Confidence is so important! Compete with yourself ladies and gents, not anyone else. Your path is designed for you.

I can’t surround myself with insecure individuals—it’s too damaging. Their insecurities inevitably spill over onto you.

I once had a friend who constantly talked down about herself, always seeking approval and validation through her appearance. It was exhausting. She had no real goals beyond her looks, and I’ve had to cut off several friends for the same reason.

Some even think being insecure is “cute.” No, baby—it’s not. It’s a major turn-off.

Assumptions and Energy

Many men make wild assumptions about me and my life, and it’s both exhausting and amusing. Guess what? I avoid correcting them. If someone thinks I’m a “bitch,” so be it. Let them assume—it’s part of life. People who assume without knowledge often project what they truly feel about themselves. Instead, they refuse to see themselves and would much rather focus on judging others, deflecting from their flaws and insecurities.

I’ve mastered the art of reclaiming my energy. And you can too! Giving your energy to people vibrating at lower frequencies only drags you down. When you withdraw that energy, you start seeing them for who they truly are. Plus, you are left with more of your energy to focus on yourself, your growth, and the things that truly matter. Call back your energy from places that don’t deserve it and begin anew.

Mansplaining Madness

Once, a grown man mansplained a simple phrase to me as if I lacked basic understanding. He repeated his question multiple times, clearly expecting me to be ignorant. I couldn’t help but bust out a laugh as I answered him. His disappointment was evident when he realized I wasn’t dumb. This incident spoke volumes about his low opinion of me from the start.

But it had everything to do with his insecure mindset, not me. What he didn’t realize is that while he was talking, he was revealing more about himself—even if the conversation was about me. So, what did this experience reveal? That his intellect was, in fact, quite limited, and he was attempting to challenge me in front of others, hoping I would embarrass myself. Fragile men will always make me giggle because I cannot control myself in situations like these.

Sadly, this happens a lot. However, it´s the most recent incident of mansplaining in a professional setting.

Hurt People and Time Thieves

Like many women, I’ve encountered men who aren’t genuine and have nothing but bad intentions. Their toxic energy is often masked behind charm or superficial kindness, but it doesn’t take long to see through the facade. Once you learn to recognize this type of energy, it becomes almost impossible to ignore. The best thing you can do is step back and let them expose themselves for who they truly are. Trust me, they always do.

Your focus should never be on trying to fix or change these individuals—it’s a waste of your precious time and energy. Instead, pour that energy into yourself. Elevate your mind, spirit, and goals, and stay committed to being the queen you were born to be. Hurt men will only drain your time, disrupt your peace, and steal your happiness. They thrive on breaking others down to feel better about themselves, but you must refuse to let them have that power over you.

Remember, you’re not responsible for their healing or their actions. Protect your energy fiercely, because your peace and happiness are worth more than anything they could ever offer. Let them spiral in their toxicity while you continue to rise above it all.

Isolation is Your Blessing

I’ve been married and divorced, plus I had a long-term relationship in my teenage years. Both men were toxic in their ways. I’ve realized I was never the problem. My ability to read people down often isolates me, but isolation is a blessing.

During isolation, Allah prepares you for what’s planned for you. We plan, but Allah is the best of planners. Tests like depression or anxiety build resilience for what we pray for. Nothing in life is permanent except death, so don´t be sad.

Marriage: A Wake-Up Call

My marriage was a transformative experience. It felt like waking up for the first time after 20 years of being asleep. I´ve always been spiritually awake and aware of my surrounding, but this time around, I completely changed 360. Mentally and spiritually, I aged in ways that were painful but necessary. Isolation during this time allowed me to strengthen my relationship with Allah.

It gave me time to heal and deepen my connection with God. I noticed how much my status had elevated immediately after the separation, but it feels so different now compared to when I first filed for divorce. Suddenly, I found myself living in the midst of answered prayers. I was overjoyed to be out of the marriage, yet I felt so empty during that time. Mourning was difficult, so I turned to Allah, and He provided exactly what I needed to get through it.

I suppose it’s because I had already mourned the divorce while I was still with him. By the time I finally moved on and had time to myself, I didn’t quite know what to do since I had already gone through the heartbreak and mourning during the marriage. I felt numb for a while, but that phase passed quickly. I mean, I prayed for freedom. Thankfully, it was a smooth divorce—thank God.

If your prayers seem unanswered, know that Allah might love to hear your voice. Maybe He just wants to hear from you over and over. Keep praying, and He will bless you beyond imagination. God always overdelivers. Build your connection with Him, and everything else will fall into place.

True Freedom

I used to have countless “friends”—party friends, work friends, family friends; you name it. My energy was scattered everywhere. Now, my energy belongs to me, and I control where it goes. This freedom is priceless.

Feel your emotions, but don’t dwell on them. Life is temporary, and so are the emotions that followes. As long as you maintain your relationship with God, there’s nothing to be afraid of. True freedom comes at a cost, but the rewards are beyond worth it.

Not a “Girls’ Girl”

I know I said this post would focus on closeted men, but I must also address sexist women. These women are incredibly toxic and cynical. They are the female equivalent of the misogynistic man—only sometimes worse. Women are deeply attuned to emotions, which can make their toxicity even more unsettling.

These women go out of their way to present themselves as champions of women or so-called “girls’ girl,” but in reality, their behavior mirrors misogyny—just cleverly disguised. This is why you can’t expect me to be a “girls’ girl” when we still have to contend with women who act in sexist ways. I don’t align with women who disrespect others. I’ve faced outrageous hate from both genders, and it always stems from their insecurities. Nobody likes an insecure individual, it´s so tiring and draining to deal with. People project their feelings constantly—it’s human nature, but I´d much rather be alone than to deal with that.

When you focus on healing, you’ll vibrate at a higher frequency, and not everyone will match your energy. Higher frequency should be the goal. It´s a lonely place, but very peaceful, and you will enjoy it so much, trust me. Healing is tough, but it’s necessary. Many people avoid the hard work of self-improvement, but the effort is worth it.

Final Thoughts

Healing is a painful yet rewarding journey. It requires patience, strength, and courage, but you’ll emerge stronger. Life breaks you to rebuild you into your best self.

And just a little reminder: sometimes people won’t like you, and that’s perfectly fine. You don’t like everyone either—it’s normal. Often, when you pursue your dreams, some people won’t support you simply because it’s you. This can happen in your job, friend group, or even within your family.

But remember, those people are a small percentage. There are so many others out there who need to hear your voice and will love and support you wholeheartedly. So, don’t pay attention to the noise from so-called haters—they’re just that: haters. Keep shining!

Don´t give up and remember—you’re not alone. <3

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